Coping with Negative Feelings During Pregnancy

Expectant mothers can be surprised and feel a great deal of guilt and internal conflict when they find themselves feeling some pretty negative feelings during pregnancy. The important to thing is to acknowledge these feelings and find ways to cope.

Coping with Negative Feelings During Pregnancy 39;s supposed to be a rosy time - as we eagerly await the arrival of our newest family member. Expectant mothers can be surprised and feel a great deal of guilt and internal conflict when they find themselves feeling some pretty negative feelings during pregnancy. Negative feelings such as resentment, fear, inadequacy and doubt are all rather normal reactions for a woman to feel while she is pregnant. The important to thing is to acknowledge these feelings and find ways to cope.

Reactions to a pregnancy can be influenced by whether the pregnancy was planned or not, and what the circumstances are surrounding the impending birth. If money is tight, or a relationship is in flux, or there are other major stressors or crisis occurring during the pregnancy, this can definitely put added stress on the expectant mother and affect her feelings toward the pregnancy itself. A woman may feel resentment that she has become pregnant, or that her lifestyle may change. Additionally, some women do not like the way they feel and the changes their bodies endure while they are pregnant, or feel resentment over having to change their diet and activity level to accommodate the period of pregnancy.

Women who work outside the home may find themselves being treated differently at work or in other activities once they become noticeably pregnant. Having your abdomen patted or having colleagues suddenly start treating you like a "mommy" can be incredibly aggravating to professional working women. There may also be conflict over how long to continue working and whether or not to return to work after the birth. Meanwhile, there will be plenty of unsolicited advice on what is the "best" way to parent.

The important thing in coping with negative feelings is to acknowledge them and deal with them as they come up. Trying to ignore them, or feeling guilty or embarrassed to experience anything other than the idealized emotions of a glowing, radiantly happy expectant mother certainly do not help. Most all expectant mothers have trepidation, concerns and negative emotions and feelings during pregnancy. It is quite normal. Coping with negative feelings involves identifying and confronting what it going on and trying to process and come to terms with the underlying issues. The sooner problems and negative feelings are dealt with, the more manageable the pregnancy will feel.

Many pregnant women find that keeping a journal can be especially helpful in sorting out all of the emotions involved in such a life-altering event as impending parenthood. Additionally, talking with a trusted partner, friend, family member, physician or a support group can also be incredibly helpful. If you find yourself overwhelmed or depressed, it may be necessary to seek a professional counselor who can help you process your feelings of negativity, resentment or guilt. You are not alone, it is very typical for a pregnant woman to wrestle with all sorts of emotions - including negative ones. It is important to work through them in order to prepare for the birth of your child.

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